Like a Girl

By: Chris Millman A very common exercise that peer educators use when giving a lesson on healthy masculinity is the “Man Box.” In this exercise, a group identifies words used to make a man feel bad about his masculinity, forcing him to act more “manly.” This includes just about every word you can probably imagine, such as “gay” or “pussy.” Obviously then, telling a male he does something “like a girl” can also fit into this category. Everyone has heard it before in many different contexts. These include “You throw like a girl,” “You fight like a girl,” and “You drink like a girl.” However, in all these exercises, no one harps on the effects that this can have on females. This commercial, made by Always, a company that sells feminine products, gives a glimpse into the effects that this has had in our culture: The effects of “like a girl” on the female population is best illustrated in that video. Our culture has created an image of how a girl should be and act. Women grow into this image because that is what our culture tells them they should do; otherwise, they are not in the “Woman Box.” This sense of inferiority that our culture places on women are major influences for sexual assault, and especially the silence that surrounds it. If we could learn how to live in a world with healthier masculinity, there would also be healthier femininity. And if you still think that anatomically women still can’t throw a ball as well as men, just watch what MythBusters says about that:...

The need for student involvement

By: Fritz Parker As administrators from 64 colleges and universities were traveling to Dartmouth College in New Hampshire this past weekend for a summit on sexual-assault policies on college campuses, the New York Times published what is the latest in a rash of exposés documenting botched handlings of assault complaints. While the institution named in the NYT story – Hobart and William Smith Colleges in central N.Y. – is rightly beginning to catch heat from all directions following the story’s several disturbing revelations, an even more disturbing reality is just now beginning to come into focus: these horror stories are going to keep coming out until the problem is addressed on all college campuses. And the summit at Dartmouth is a start. Two Federal Department of Education officials at the conference have made it clear to college administrators that any colleges that fail to protect their students will face consequences. As MSNBC reported, one official did not mince words in making this point, telling the audience, “If you satisfy the law, then you have safe harbor. If you don’t, you don’t. We’re not considering a middle ground.” While this top-down approach beginning at the highest levels of government is a measure of progress at the federal level, it will ultimately fail if it is not accompanied by a corresponding change in the campus cultures that allow these issues to fester. The administrations – though they are clearly not doing enough to combat sexual assault – ultimately cannot be the ones to solve the problem. Only students can do that. Which is where Party With Consent comes in. Our primary...