Failure is Consent.

“What are you scared of, John?” said the young entrepreneur I had just met at the Fortune Leadership Summit. Impressed and surprised by this immediate deep question, I paused. “I’m scared that my actions don’t properly align with what I truly want. This starts with looking inside and finding out what I truly want first and follows with reflecting on my actions to make sure that acting in a way that helps me get what I truly want. I constantly reflect and fear that any of my actions don’t line up with what I truly want.” Boom. I felt like I nailed it. Take that young entrepreneur! Naturally, I had to respond, “What about you, sir? What are you scared of?” No pause. One word. Full of confidence. “Failure.” This was an ambitious kid, not one, but two business projects and he’s still in high school. And his deepest fear like so many others is fear of failure. I remember when I could tell you my deepest fear in the same one word. I hated failing. I still hate failing. I’m still afraid of failing. But failure is the key to growth. Failure is the key to truth. Dismantling the fear of failure is a key goal of Party With Consent. Fear of failure reminds us, at times, to not be true to ourselves. In the “game” that we socially construct around sex, consent, and relationships, being a competition, if we unveil our true self, we risk failure, we become vulnerable. “What if she finds out that I still suck my thumbs?” “What if she doesn’t like it that...